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In this issue we’re going to help you professionalize your way of living by shattering the "trying" paradigm that is undoubtedly limiting your potential. It’s time to embrace a more powerful approach: training. When you contrast these two mentalities it becomes clear that they lead us in very different directions.
Have you ever thought to yourself, maybe I need to "just try harder"?
We've all been there: "Try reading this book, try using that technique, try attending a workshop, try to stress less." But let's be honest, the "trying" approach to personal development and leadership effectiveness typically leads to disappointment, frustration, and exhaustion in the long run.
Flourishing leadership isn't about fleeting attempts or heroic efforts. It’s about living On Purpose. Embarking on a deliberate, intentional journey towards mastery, demanding commitment, consistent action, and a lifelong pursuit of learning.
Why "Trying" Won't Cut It
Misguided Effort. Trying requires just as much effort, but lacks specific goals and structured practice that compound the effort, leaving you susceptible to discouragement when results vary or setbacks arise. It's like fixing a leaky pipe with duct tape – temporary and ineffective.
Encourages Passivity. Simply "trying" is reactive. It teaches us to wait for inspiration to strike or disappointment to provoke. This passivity hinders proactiveness, a skill crucial for navigating the complexities of personal and leadership growth
Limits Progress. Without consistent and targeted practice, it's impossible to develop and refine your desired skills. Just as a muscle needs regular exercise to grow stronger, your personal and leadership effectiveness require dedicated training.
The Training Advantage
Builds Resilience. Consistent training fosters self-efficacy, the belief in your ability to achieve your goals despite the circumstances. Over time this boosts confidence, a quiet confidence in your ability to engage in hard things. This empowers you to act more intentional when faced with challenges.
Upgrades Defaults. Deliberate practice creates and strengthens neural pathways, making desirable behaviors automatic over time. By training, you transform goals into ingrained operating systems, paving the way for lasting change.
Activates Potential. Training equips you with the framework necessary to transcend any given outcome in pursuit of full potential. Training gives context to our work empowering us to remain consistent even when things aren’t going our way. When training, both successes and failures serve the same purpose. They help inform the next iteration of the plan. Training keeps you growing.
Ditch the "Trying" Trap and Embark on The Training Journey
Stop trying to get what you want now and start training to get what you want most.
Stop trying to find big hacks and start training to accumulate small wins.
Stop trying to follow complex plans and start training in executing simple systems.
Stop trying to accumulate pleasures and start training to create meaning.
Stop trying to outshine and start training to outlast.
Stop trying to do more and start training to be better.
Stop trying to avoid anger, frustration & stress and start training to find peace and contentment.
Stop trying to be transformational and start training to flourish.
We could go on for days, but the real difference is in the mindset.
What are you training for? Who are you training with? You are not alone. This is easier to do in groups.
We’re building a community of like-minded leaders committed to this training journey.